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Things you’ll miss while on social media

October 19, 2018

Have you ever take a moment to unglue your eyes from the screen in your hands, stretch your neck back to vertical, and see the moment right there in front of you? 

Patient – Doc, I can’t figure out why I walked into a perfectly nice glass door

Doctor – Whatever the case you made Chris Farley proud (#tommyboy). Put the phone down. 

Before anyone reads this, and thinks this guy doesn’t like to use his phone….I absolutely do. I just care more about the opportunities life has that don’t include my phone. While traveling around North America this week I observed or discussed the following with people. What do they all have in common? 

My thoughts are at the end of the bullet points:  

 I watched the adventurous smile on a child’s face as they road their bike for the first time.
 Some child watched my adventurous smile as I gazed at a salmon hatchery for the first time.
 I Listened to an uber driver talk about the nerves, excitement, and opportunities of moving from Iran to the US this recently. He said he would do it all over again. 
 Met with an executive that explained that he flies across the globe to meet with clients, because no media alternativescan replace the human moment. (#harvardbusinessreviewarticle)
 A lady about 75 years old who just lost her husband, and who was traveling without him for the first time alone since he passed. Her story was amazing, and absolutely made me tear up.
– She was one of my favorite people to meet on a plane. Enjoy LA, and the Nicholas Sparks novels. 
 A gentleman whose wife had dreamt of “Someday” owning a farm with horses and bought one rather than waiting for the “Right moment in life”. Was he surprised when I told him my families story (#somedayfarmCT).  
 A younger lady fresh out of college who can’t seem to figure out where she fits in life but keeps putting herself out there for whatever opportunities come her way. 
 I toasted with an entrepreneur who jumped into an industry with little knowledge of the industry, but he put himself out there. He’s proving that success is available to all. #winning 
 I listened to the excitement of a coworkers facing multiple Mt. Everest sized obstacles. Yet they brain stormed enough approaches to the task that Sir. Edmond Hillary would have taken a bow. 
 Had dinner with someone who’s climbed 5 out of 7 highest peaks in the world. He claims his kids are his best adventure! #familyfirst =’s #Winning 
 A lady who walked into a networking event full of peoplesimply trying to fit in and approached the person who stood out. As a result, her company is one of the fastest growing organizations in California. #beyou

So what’s the commonality? Each of your responses will be different, and that’s what great! Our approaches to obstacles should be different. It’s the lady who after 52 years of marriage steps onto a plane for the first time, because she believed that’s what was needed to start the next phase of her life. It’s the child who lets his parents know it’s time to remove the training wheels. It’s the entrepreneur that’s had enough of people putting him on the wrong seat on the bus and built his own bus. Opportunities are present for anyone willing to put themselves out there. What opportunity is right in front of you? Are you more afraid of failing that the opportunity to succeed is passing by?

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Hold on to your hat. We don’t stop for hats.

August 11, 2018

I was on boat getting ready to start an adventure beyond anything I could have imagined. I was with my marine biology class traveling on a dive boat heading to what felt like the edge of the world. The excitement that overcame me as we edged further from the shore is hard to describe unless whomever is reading this loves the open ocean and the thrill of the unknown.

Once our captain pushed us past the wake zone he let out a big “hold on to your hat we don’t stop for hats”, and then the child like excitement radiated from his face as he opened the throttle as if for the first time.

It was hard not to feel a boost of adrenaline as he screamed that out. I don’t think that the captain knew he’d leave a lasting impact on my life, and a phrase that my I would come to quote in perpetuity.

Let me explain why I love this phrase, and its applicability to how we should live life. I believe this is applicable to our life and career goals.

To truly experience what’s in front of us we should hold tight to the aspects that hold a significance to us, but not lose focus on what’s in front of us.

I’ll you decide what that significant aspect is for you…family…friends…promotions or advancements at work….memories of those close to us that have passed away…favorite John Wayne moments. We need to hold on tight, because life moves quicker than we tend to stop to enjoy what’s happening around us at the moment.

Holding on to the aspects that have the highest intrinsic value to us, and letting go of the things that weigh us down isn’t easy. Not being consumed by what we can’t control, and focusing on what we can is a crucial first step.

Limiting the “hats” increases our bandwidth to keep our eyes on our surrounding, attaining goals that we’ve have in place, and to experience things we didn’t even consider.

Visualize sitting on a boat in the open ocean going 25 knots, a wave crashing up against the side of the boat, and the spray from the wave splashing all over your face. Immediately you try grabbing 10 different hats that you brought, because you wanted to prepare for losing at least 9 of them all while not paying attention to what’s going on around you. Then the person next to you screams, “Did you see the size of that whale that just slapped its tail on the water spraying us with water?”.

When we try wearing to many hats we can miss the thing right in front of us, and cloudy our vision making it more difficult to reach our goals. We also become less effective at our role(s).

It’s easy to take on more than we should. Which one of these resembles your current situation, and is that where you want to be?

– Are you the one who chooses not to take anything on your journey, and at the end will have plenty of experiences, but no one to share them with?

– Are you the one who holds on to more hats than you can handle or should being handling. Resulting in limited experiences from being overstretched, limited bandwidth to attain your goals, and potentially are only able to give a small percentage of effort to each area that requires your full attention.

– Are you the one who’s been thoughtful of holding on to the right “hats”, being able to experience life to the fullest with those that you cherish the most, and by doing these things are exceeding your goals on a regular basis?

I believe this concept can help to refocus any area of our life whether it’s person goals, career goals, or life goals.

A New Horizon

July 18, 2017


There’s something about the horizon that provokes the inner adventurer in me. I imagine for some it might provoke a mild to major panic attack, and that’s ok. As I glance at the horizon while I’m on the plane typing this I can’t help what people during the Louis and Clark days felt. Knowing that they would endure starvation, hypothermia, attacks, death, and yet what laid beyond the horizon to them made it all worth while. It’s safe to assume that their adaptability or adverse quotient was pretty high. 
Someone I was speaking to today kept talking about all of things they were hoping might happen, but when I asked what their plan for making those things happen there was a  blank stare. There were no answers only a simple shrug of the shoulders. Now I didn’t know this person at all we were just shooting the breeze before the plane departed. It just made me think about the concept of having a plan. Life doesn’t go to plan, and all of us know that. However, it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t have a plan.  One might say that Louis and Clark hardly had a map, because that was what they were sent to create. Well that’s accurate, but they planned out the supplies, equipment, and people needed for their journey. 

Just food for thought, but what’s something that your hopeful for in the future, and what’s your plan to accomplish that dream?

As always thanks for reading 

I’d do it all over again

July 4, 2017

Anyone thats had a puppy knows that there will come a day that’s not going to be as exciting as when you brought the dog home. The years pass and as you age with your best friend one day you’re laying down next to him on the floor telling him that it’s going to be alright. 

For the past few months we have been watching Koda’s health decline. There were a couple moments that we didn’t think he would have made it. In true Labrador fashion he’d have a bad day then one of us would find a ball, and out of nowhere the old man would find his inner child. That didn’t happen this week. I knew the day was coming close so at night when putting him to bed I’d lay with him. I’d talk to him like he was a human. Like he was one of our kids wanting to read a bed time story. Well simply put he was one of our children. He was the one that when I went away on my trips for work I’d tell him he better protect my family. Truth be told if a burglar came into our house he would be the first to hide in the bath tub. 

On Sunday night I was shutting the lights off, and decided to lay on the floor for a bit with him. I thanked him for taking care of my family, for never interrupting me as I vented to him, for being there to help me grieve the loss of my brother, and most importantly for being my best friend.  I never thought it would be so hard to lose a dog, but why wouldn’t it be. 

As the life passed from Koda at the vets I knew that wasn’t the hardest thing I’d have to do that day. The hardest would be coming home again to my family to let them know someone didn’t come back with me. On to the next chapter of life. We have a 150lb Bernese that needs us to love him as much as possible. 

In conclusion I’ve heard a few people tell me that’s why they don’t get animals to avoid having to lose them. I would do it all over again. Yes this part is hard, but I can’t imagine not having the memories of Koda for myself, my family or those the cops that have brought him home in their cruisers when he ran away from home multiple times. 

In true blog fashion if you’ve made it this far I appreciate it. 

Oh Christmas TREE

December 24, 2016

With moving to our first farm there have been many firsts. I consider myself a city boy while my wife has farm blood running in her vein. It was only a matter of time until we made a move to a farm. Over Thanksgiving week my grandparents were in town, and the Friday after Christmas is when we always pick up a real Christmas tree. This year was different than normal years though. We happen to live up the steeet from the Allen Hill Tree Farm in Brooklyn, CT. Although the day was as cold as it has been all year we loaded up with hats and mittens to cut our tree down. We were blessed to have my grandfather with us even though he was craving warm weather in his home state of Florida we were able to have him join us.

Life is about memories, and cutting down this tree was full of them. My children were able to spend the day with their great grandfather at a tree farm filled with holiday cheer. My children watched people shake my grandfathers hand thanking him for being a veteran. I watched as I saw my kids begging him to come on a tractor ride while he was truing get the warmth back in his toes.  When we arrived at the plot of trees where we were dropped off I could hear my grandfather picking out the first tree he saw so we could get back to warmth of our house, but my kids had other plans. They wanted to search the entire field looking for the perfect tree. As I was under the tree I could hear the kids, Lachelle, and my Gramp laughing a lot. The didn’t see the smile on my face under the tree, but it was there. This tree will be one of my favorites. Not because it was too big for our house, and caused quotes from “Christmas Vacation” to happen as I trimmed it inside to fit. It will be one of my favorites, because of the memories spent getting the tree. 

Everyone talks about how Life is all about memories and experiences, but how much time is spent creating those memories. I’m thankful this season for my family who are up for adventures, and experiences. 

God bless everyone, and to all a good night!

As always if you’ve made it this far in my post thanks!

Active and Inactive Involvement

September 12, 2015

  
One of my favorite things to do while growing up, and through college was to lay in a tent listening to the fire spark, and the wildlife. Working more hours than not I find it really important to improvise activities with the kids. Now our backyard isn’t like the nights spent camping in the Adirondacks of NY, but it’s pretty darn close. There’s no car to be loaded, traffic to be stuck in, or leaves needed for “emergency” TP. When our  kids first asked to do this it seemed semi boring to me. However, no I get it. Our kids were used to Lachelle and I sitting by a fire while they were inside laying in their bed. Our Kids want like to be involved even after hours. 

So sitting by the fire it made think about that concept. I believe everyone wants a level of involvement whether directly or indirectly, and depending on the situation the level of involvement will be different. It’s a solid reminder that when with others to keep in mind that we shouldnt exclude people from being involved simply because they don’t seem to be an active participant. I often find they may be soaking in the moment or trying to learn from those actively engaged in an activity. Especially with kids.

Point of the story….get creative to keep everyone involved!

1 man blessed by 3 kids

June 21, 2015

Most that are close to me know I want to spend as much time with my family as possible. My wife works on Saturday nights catering, and that means it’s strictly the kids and I. When she first started working I used to think of it as 3 on 1. Now I think of it as 1 man blessed by 3. Today I took the kids to the beach to body surf. First off it is wild that my kids are old enough to do this without holding on to them, and secondly it’s great they aren’t old enough so they still randomly ask to hold my hand. I was searching for a natural sand castle shovel aka “sea clam shell” when my oldest daughter asked I would hold her hand while she tried to go deeper in the water. Part of me was taken back, because she still needs me for those moments. I know time is flying, and the more I see them growing the more I cherish those moments. 

So what do I want to do on Father’s Day. Pretty simple I want to spend time with the man who taught what a father should be. My dad. I also want to spend the day doing whatever my kids want, and I’ll enjoy every minute of it. 

For the children out their without fathers or with fathers that have passed know that I am sure if you had a father or if your dad was still alive he’d want to do the same thing.